Defriending Your Ex On Facebook
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So you’ve made it through the dreaded Facebook break-up and are currently trying to pick up the pieces and move on with your life. Sure would be a lot easier if you weren’t compelled to check your ex’s Facebook page daily, (ok hourly) right? Well brace yourself, because you are just beginning the whirlwind of emotions that you will feel regarding his profile.
Here’s what you can prepare yourself for:
The first week or so is great. You check your ex’s page often and rest assured that he hasn’t already moved on and that your status updates are decidedly more exciting than his.
A few weeks later, your ex gets tagged in a photo with a girl wearing nothing but pasties on her chest, and the game starts to get a little less fun.
So then you’ll probably decide to hide his updates in your news stream. I mean, if you don’t see his little face pop up daily, you won’t think to check his profile. Or so you tell yourself.
Your final attempt will be to make a conscientious effort to see how long you can go without checking his page. You’ll find that 24 hours or 3 days is an awesome accomplishment. Yikes.
If at this point, you haven’t cracked and defriended him, you almost definitely will when you find out your ex has a new girlfriend. I’ll tell yea, nothing changes the game quite like that tid-bit of information. When I heard through the grapevine that Mr. Not Quite Right had a new girlfriend, I waited all of seven seconds before defriending his ass. There was no way I wanted to see pictures of him and this 21-year-old child he was purportedly dating.
But what I didn’t realize until I did this was the amazing freedom that came with defriending him. I no longer had to worry about every status update. Was it peppy enough? Would the fact that I called the whole foods checker a hottie hurt his overly sensitive feelings? Did he catch that one about me going out with the guys? At last, my Facebook interactions could at go back to normal.
And best of all, I didn’t have any way to know what was going on his life. It is a lot harder to obsess over someone that you never see. In truth, the simple act of defriending Mr. Not Quite Right was the smartest thing I ever did and it was the only way I was able to actually get over him.
So do I think you should de-friend every ex the second you break up? Not necessarily. I haven’t defirended Mr. Cute but Whiny and we went our separate way 3 weeks ago. I think it depends on the intensity of the relationship. If you truly loved the guy, and the thought of him with someone else makes you want to kill someone, than staying Facebook friends will be challenging.
Here’s a little test for yourself. Do you check his profile every time you log on? Are you clicking through to every new girl he becomes friends with and trying to assess the nature of their relationship. Do you check his friends walls to see what he is writing to them. If you are answering yes to any of these questions, ask yourself how much time a day you are devoting to this guy and consider the freedom a defriend may give you. I, for one, highly recommend it.
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